Originally posted by Ice_princess83:
My boyfriend was recently sentenced to more than a year in
prison for stuff he did some time back (fighting and such). I've
been so depressed since then. I cry everytime i look at pictures we
took together. I've never missed anyone so much in my life. The
worst part...he didn't know how to tell me that he wld be going in
soon...but i found out soon after. and my parents, who have always
been against him because of his bad past wld probably totally ban
me from having anything to do with him if they found out. I feel so
alone and i can't bear to let him go but i know my parents might
not accept him in the future. sometimes i think that perhaps
suicide is the only way to end this pain.[/b]
First thing: It's only a farking year plus and come and think of
it its isn't that long 
*Breathes in*
Suicide? If I was your
parents I will ban you, not because he went jail but
because of your inmaturity to handle your own relationship
and I would have thought that this influence comes from
him.
Please lar, love CANNOT perform miracle for you - you can only make
use your deep feelings for him to create miracle with your bare
hands using your intellect. And now I will teach you how to create
this possible miracle.
***
You are sad because he is locked behind bars and couldn't
accompany, talk or even SMS you anymore. However, the positive side
is that this is a couple's karmic lesson for you both to undergo
and if you humble yourself, acknowledge this test and face the
challenges, you won half the battle. Please note that this test
will bring your relationship into new heights because after this
phrase of his life - there will be changes and this changes will
mould and evolve the both of you.
Handle inner cycle first (Internal environment): When you could see
him in jail and if it is possible to pass him letter or note, do
write up something and give him. Of course, in the midst of all
these emotional words that you will sure to write - your content
throughout this year plus has to be one constant message -
CHANGE FOR THE SAKE OF
THIS RELATIONSHIP. If his temper is bad, he has to change.
People tries to pick a fight? Learn to smile and walk off. People
stare? Look on the floor. He has to learn emotional
control. Worst still - if his friends were a bunch of
people always implicated into fights - avoid hanging out with
them.
With constant psychological reinforcement of encouragement, new
drive of goals and psychological/emotional rebirth - this
relationship will grow and foster from this test. In jail, he has
tons of time to spend on thinking and pondering - he will read and
re-read your letters. Your strong, firm faith in overcoming odds
and to change him will succeed if he truely loves you and his focus
becomes long term (this relationship) and not short term (by his
temper).
He has to change because you want your parents to
know that you didn't make a wrong choice.
What about you? You shall learn the beauty of devotion and
encouragement to your love. If this year shall be a year of many
suitors, so where does your love lies? In this bleak hours of his
life, where will your strength in him lies?
P.S: If you shield the canyon from the wind, you will never
see the beauty of their craving. Relationship test - do
you have the strength to leap to the next level? Or do you cry and
succumb?
Cheers
